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Monday, July 06, 2015 Muna Lisa 2 Comments

Date A Broke Man?

The heading might be a bit "in your face" but the more subtle question would be; could you date a man who isn't as (yet) established as you are? 

Picture this: You have finally met the man of your dreams minus the career thus also minus the cash. However, he does have a dream and ambition. Would you mind playing the reverse role and support him in however you can despite the uncertainty of how long it might take him to establish himself?

Although there are quite a few success stories (Obama and Michele, Tia Mowry and her husband) in which women initially started dating men who were on the come-up whereas the woman already had established herself career wise. On the contrary there are also stories where relationships eventually fail due to the couple not being able to be on the same page when it comes to career/money, making the woman the breadwinner. Seeing potential in your man obviously is one the key attractions you had for him from the beginning but what if his dreams are just that… dreams?

If his dreams and ambitions are met by how hard he works towards it, then why not say"love conquers all" so when you meet that one and you see the potential in him, then why not take a leap of faith and see if you two can be the next success story. 

However, a woman in her 30s who has hustled and worked her ass off to establish the career and the life she yearned for, it is hard to go backwards in terms of dating a man who is similar age but yet still trying to figure himself out thus being maybe unemployed or in between odd jobs. 
Nobody wants to be stuck with the bills while your significant other is trying establish his rap career in his mid 30s. 

Share your views on the comment box down below as I would love to hear your thought on this matter. DON'T HOLD BACK!

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  1. I have seen similar debate on the Steve Harvey show couple of years back where both women and men were making valid points. Personally I could not date a man who at least isn't going out there to build his life up but like you mentioned in the article his dream has to match his current reality. And no, no aspiring "rapper" for me lol. BTW I love how you post subjects that matter to the females of this generation.

    1. Thank you Laila!
      Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying we should always look for "already established" men but someone who shares the same drive to succeed.